The story of a life is the legacy of the human race. Every story is invaluable to future generations.
“Dada, come quick! Grandma is not getting up, and papa is just crying. Come quick!” I was woken up abruptly as I lay asleep in bed with a viral infection that morning of August 5. I did not have time to think as I rushed to my parents’ bedroom. My father stood at the foot of their bed and as I entered he looked at me, tears in his eyes as he shook his head saying, “She’s gone.” I turned towards the bed and saw my mother lying still, in the far corner, as if asleep. She had her left arm up over her eyes. Her right hand, bent at the elbow rested on her pillow. I had seen her sleeping in just such a pose on numerous occasions.
I reached out across the bed and touched her arm and knew. It was cold. I shook her gently as I called, “Mom?” Then repeated louder “mom!” shaking her more vigorously. But she lay there, silent and still. The clock on the wall of the bedroom ticked away. But for me, time seemed to stand still at that moment.
Tears welled up as I sat alone in that kitchen as I silently recalled the times past. It was a happy childhood filled with fun and laughter. But stealthily, like a thief in the night, things had changed unbeknownst to any of us. I found conversation increasingly sparse. I continued to love her but somehow could not communicate it.
Now with her passing, these thoughts flooded my mind. Perhaps I was not the son she deserved. My silence fueled her silence and thus causing her to give up? If only I had…
STORIES ARE LEGACIES
Life narratives make our collective history, telling us who we are, where we came from and where we are going. Our past shapes our present and informs our future.
After my mum’s death, I realised there was very little I know about her. I do know of events that happened during my lifetime as her son. But how did these events affect her internally? What were her thoughts and emotions that knowingly or unknowingly I overlooked? And what about her life outside the home? What were her experiences as a woman in the corporate world? And of course, what was her life before me? How did she grow up? The time when she met my dad? Her experiences and emotions when my sister and then I was born? The joys, hardships and satisfaction that only she could have known and experienced.
On a larger scale, I realised the number of family histories that are lost with each generation. This is a loss not just for each family, but a collective loss as a society. Thus was born “Narrative Legacies”.
Your Story writer
With several years of experience in print and video journalism and documentary filmmaking – writing features, interviewing people and weaving narratives, I can say the love of people/human stories is what drives me.
Interviewing people from diverse financial and cultural backgrounds in my journalism work has helped me gain an ability to empathise with people. I am also told my quiet, unassuming nature helps put people at ease and thus open to me.
I invite you to check out my work in documentary film and journalism as well as in non-fiction feature writing on my portfolio website.
I decided to make it my mission to help individuals and families preserve their life stories to be cherished by future generations.
Apala & Salesh
‘It was great to have a storybook for the most memorable day of our life. Whenever I flip through the pages of this book even during the busiest day, it feels like living a dream, refreshing all the sweet memories. Our wedding story book is a time keeper and I just love to read it again and again. Thank you Gasper, you have been a great author to our love story.
Life Story / Gasper, this is brilliant! It brings tears to my eyes. Thank you for your patience during the interview. It put me at ease and in the process I was able to recall memories I had forgotten from all those years ago. I wanted to do this work of recording my experiences for many years. Thanks to you, I was able to finally get it started for my children and grand children.
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